Questions To Ask Before a First Date

If online dating has been paying off for you and you've reached the point of agreeing to go on a date, how do you know where to go and what to do? How do you stay safe when meeting a stranger?

What To Do and Where To Go

Hopefully, you and your date have been using online dating messages to chat to each other. Even better, perhaps you’ve talked on the phone. Now it's time to actually arrange a date and you don't know what to do.

First, think back over your conversations. If you can reread the messages you've sent each other, so much the better. What has been said which suggests an activity you would both enjoy?

If you're both foodies, dinner might be a good option – it gives you plenty of opportunity to talk and even if you’re struggling for conversation, the food, other diners and quality (or otherwise) of the service are all ready topics. If the date goes well you could go for a walk or drinks afterwards, but if it doesn't it is easy enough to skip dessert and go straight home.

If you're not confident enough to spend several hours in each other's company while eating dinner, what about lunch? It's generally a shorter meal and less fancy than dinner, so there's less pressure. The same goes for a trip to the cinema. You can discuss the film afterwards and if you hit it off, go for a drink to continue the discussion.

If you've bonded over a certain activity or hobby, such as walking, that makes a nice first date. Otherwise, drinks are a good choice. Most over 40s aren't really into the partying scene, so it might be best to avoid a Friday or Saturday night at the local bar, but a local pub is a friendly, unthreatening venue.

Once you have an idea in mind, don't forget to ask your date for their views! This is your chance to impress and if you pick something they hate you'll probably have blown it. They might have an alternative suggestion, but equally they might be able to recommend a good restaurant or a film they want to see.

Practical Questions

Once you've arranged where you're going and what you're going to do when you get there, you need to make the practical arrangements. How will you recognize each other? One option is to decide well in advance what you'll be wearing and let your date know. It also adds a fun bit of energy and ice-breaker potential to the beginning of the date as you try to spot each other.

How do you stay safe when meeting someone who is essentially a stranger? The answer is that's best to meet somewhere public until you get to know each other better. This is particularly important for women. Let someone know where you're going and when you expect to be back. If you have a bad feeling about someone, don't ignore it – it is always best to be safe and your instincts will often be right.



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